Feministic Views

Sometimes I get laughed at for being so pushy about women's rights, especially when I get incredibly pissed off at some stupid music video with a "hot" girl showing off her entire body. And then they say I'm overreacting. I'm not! People just don't seem to care, or even understand.

"I respect myself and always have. I don't think there's any reason for some of the stuff that women celebrities do. It's a real shame, and it offends me because you're representing me. We're all women; we're in this together. And then they start to go downhill and people aren't paying attention anymore. So they start stripping their clothes off, because that's all they have left. I swear to everything I've ever known, I will never do that."

Amy Lee said that quote, and that's just one of the reasons why I love her.

I sent that to my friend Mark, and he said, "Yeah, but I wish she would."

I flipped out on him, and he said I was taking it far too seriously. I'm not. It's people like him that don't understand. I guess I shouldn't expect him to, considering he's of the male species, but he could at least have a little more respect towards women, especially a woman like Amy. And his response was, "I'm human."

That's not an excuse. You could make that excuse after murdering someone. "I'm human." That doesn't mean anything. That's like saying that just because you're able to function and think in that way makes it right. IT'S NOT RIGHT. Women are scientifically proven to be able to multi-task easier than men are. Women are also more detail-oriented, logical, contemplative, passionate, intuitive, and have better verbal skills. And it goes unnoticed by most of society! And there are stupid girls out there who abuse those skills and dumb themselves down, using sex to control men. And it's pathetic. THAT is what makes guys have a lack of respect for those women out there who really deserve it. They come to expect it, and a lot of them assume that we just get dolled up to please them. NOT TRUE. It makes US feel good about OURSELVES. It's rarely for them. But when they just assume that we're putting on a pleasurable appearence for them, they come to expect it all the time, just like the expect us to strip off our clothes and give into their sexual desires when they want them. And then when we don't, they get angry or annoyed and think we're bad girlfriends or lovers, or just a bad girl. I once had an ex-boyfriend tell me I was a bad girlfriend, but I didn't do anything wrong emotionally. The only thing I did was take the physical stuff at my own pace, sometimes FASTER than what I wanted, and he decided I was a bad girlfriend for that. Not only was I a bad girlfriend, but a PRUDE as well. I AM NOT A PRUDE, AND I AM NOT A BAD GIRLFRIEND. No one has any idea how much I put into my relationships, and I don't just mean my relationships with men, but with my friends as well. Nine times out of ten, I get let down because of it as well.

Right now, I am very anti-male. I don't want to be this angry, or this mean all the time, but I can't help it. I've come to realize that people who I thought had respect for women actually don't, and it makes me wonder how many people really do? How many guys out there can honestly say they're in a relationship strictly for how the person makes them feel emotionally? How many men-- not even just men, but women too-- can say they have sex to express how they feel about a person? Not many people, and it's so depressing to know that I am one of the few out there that really feel this way. Maybe I only feel this way because I haven't actually had sex, and maybe it will change when I do. Maybe I'm just having false hopes about the whole sex thing. But maybe, instead, I'll find someone out there who thinks the way I do, who agrees with me on these topics, and who will treat me like an equal, who will treat me with as much devotion as I'm willing to give to a person.

But as of right now, it's not looking good.

S. Ashleigh